On Friendship, Failings Of

At what point do you give up on a friendship? I recently had something bad happen in my life. I looked to a friend for support and got…nothing. For the most part, I'm very self-sufficient and don't like to lean on anyone. All I wanted from my friend was an attendee for my pity party. Instead I got a pat on the back and a "rough break." Normally, this wouldn't be a big deal, but this same friend recently went through a hard time of her own. Not only did I support her, I answered calls from her late at night, I listened on the phone while she cried, while she poured her heart out to me. When things turned around in her situation, I was happy for her. Now, I'm willing to admit that my "bad stuff" was no where near as bad as her "bad stuff." I'm not trying to compare them at all. I'm simply frustrated, and honestly disappointed in the reaction I got. Had she come to me with the exact same problem, I would been sympathetic and I would have listened. That's all I was really looking for.